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    • CommentAuthorTrevs Mum
    • CommentTimeMar 1st, 2012 1:15am (Mar 1st 2012)
     
    Bloody heck that was a huge job Red, I would be fuming with flames coming out my ears too, landlords can be so selfish. it's often all about spending as little as posible for the biggest return.

    We once rented a house and Brian wallpapered 2 rooms,(found a nice discontinued lot of paper very cheap), painted the kitchen and laid some second hand carpet that was in excellent condition. The owner was so excited he brought the family around to see, they could not believe we would do that. We lived there 8 years while saving to buy this house. If only people would realise that if you treat them well then it usually comes back twofold. They only put the rent up once in all those years as they knew we were reliable.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 1st, 2012 5:15pm (Mar 1st 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Haha, thanks TM, nice to know we're not over-reacting!

    Aw, that's cute. See, we want to have a nice relationship with our landlord, but he's not making it easy!! Apparently the people who were here before us painted every room in the house jet black, didn't pay the last few months' rent, and then stole all the furniture in the property!! So at least he has to realise we're better than them :rolling:

    Next door didn't come around to look at the carpet last night, but at least we've already told them about it...as long as they don't blame us for the holes and if it goes curled from us tripping over it, I don't care!

    We still have piles of wood and nails right outside our door, either side, which the builder said he was picking up this morning...they're all useless!! :laugh:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 9th, 2012 6:55pm (Mar 9th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    rant: there were two kids out playing today in a field and tarmac area, with no adults or supervision of any kind. One was about 5, and the other even younger. They saw us walking our dog and ran over screaming 'doggie, get the doggie!' I got very snarky with them because it was such stupid behaviour - despite it being the parents' fault over theirs' - and told them if they scared our dog he would bite them, and that they should never run screaming up to dogs!

    It really annoyed me; that's precisely why children need to be taught how to behave around dogs!! And why they need to be supervised!! So many dogs are PTS for snapping at children when it isn't the dog's fault!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 9th, 2012 11:42pm (Mar 9th 2012)
     
    I agree with you Red 100%. I really don't understand why parents are so willing to put their child in risky situations. It makes me wonder if they want something to happen to them so that they can sue.
    • CommentAuthorLynnW
    • CommentTimeMar 10th, 2012 7:17am (Mar 10th 2012)
     
    Yes, if parents don't teach their children how to respect animals, then they are just asking for trouble. It makes me angry too, that they always blame the animal. (I've met several kids that I would like to bite.)
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 10th, 2012 10:59pm (Mar 10th 2012)
     
    There is a 14 year old cat at the rehoming centre that has been surrendered this week because the owner had a baby and now its crawling the cat is 'scared' (no surprise) and she doesn't want it to scratch the baby.

    Do people really think its justified to abandon a cat you've had for 14 years in case it scratches your child? If the child is taught respect and the cat is given the opportunity to run away it won't happen. My Foggy detests the grandkids, but she's only scratched Caitlyn once and that was when Caitlyn was told not to touch Foggy's feet, prevented from touching, given something else to do and then pretended she'd left something in the bedroom so that she could go back and touch Foggy's foot. Needless to say she learnt her lesson and hasn't done that to the cat again.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 11th, 2012 3:21pm (Mar 11th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Posted By: KatebI agree with you Red 100%. I really don't understand why parents are so willing to put their child in risky situations. It makes me wonder if they want something to happen to them so that they can sue.


    Posted By: LynnWYes, if parents don't teach their children how to respect animals, then they are just asking for trouble. It makes me angry too, that they always blame the animal. (I've met several kids that I would like to bite.)


    A lot of dogs find children naturally scary because of the way they move and the noises they make - it's very different from adults. Thankfully Kasper is great with children, but even so I didn't want them coming anywhere near us!!

    I don't understand why people can't teach their kids how to act around animals - I was taught the basics of don't approach a dog without an owner unless you knew it well, always ask the owner before stroking it, and move slowly and quietly around them.

    Posted By: KatebThere is a 14 year old cat at the rehoming centre that has been surrendered this week because the owner had a baby and now its crawling the cat is 'scared' (no surprise) and she doesn't want it to scratch the baby.

    Do people really think its justified to abandon a cat you've had for 14 years in case it scratches your child? If the child is taught respect and the cat is given the opportunity to run away it won't happen. My Foggy detests the grandkids, but she's only scratched Caitlyn once and that was when Caitlyn was told not to touch Foggy's feet, prevented from touching, given something else to do and then pretended she'd left something in the bedroom so that she could go back and touch Foggy's foot. Needless to say she learnt her lesson and hasn't done that to the cat again.


    Even more annoying are the hundreds of families that, either whilst pregnant or when the baby is still young, buy a very energetic lively puppy. Why?!?!? The puppy ends up in rescue, hyperactive, poorly trained, often not even housetrained and, unless it's a Lab or similar, nobody wants it!!
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMar 11th, 2012 5:14pm (Mar 11th 2012)
     
    Posted By: Red
    A lot of dogs find children naturally scary because of the way they move and the noises they make - it's very different from adults.


    Me too. :tooth:

    Seriously though, I wonder at the callousness of someone who can cast aside an animal who's given them 14 years of love. Surely if they train the kid properly, as Kate did Caitlyn, there won't be a problem?
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 11th, 2012 6:08pm (Mar 11th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    The cat hadn't even scratched the baby yet, they gave it up just in case - that's what I don't understand!

    I found some amazing videos on YouTube of a newborn baby who's parents had bought an American Bulldog (I think) puppy at the same time. They didn't give it up, the dog is well-loved and amazing with the baby. They're both at least 2 now I think. The videos are beautiful.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 12th, 2012 12:17am (Mar 12th 2012)
     
    Kids that are brought up alongside pets are usually much happier and more loving. They learn a lot about friendship and responsibility from having a pet around. I am so glad I had pets throughout my childhood.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 14th, 2012 6:09pm (Mar 14th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    :cheer::yay_jump::woohoo:

    We are getting all our savings back, should be by Monday!!!

    Since I last ranted about our claim and was told we'd be getting money ASAP, we have been told we won't be paid any money from before December 2011 (despite the claim being started 6th March 2011!) and when Lyle calls to ask what's happening with our claim, we get told they don't know and that they can't give us the number for somebody who does know!! By today we were owed 8 call-backs, some from last Monday, and most were classed as urgent or emergency call-backs!

    Today we hadn't heard so Lyle phoned them as usual...and someone actually called back a few hours later! He said they'd found a letter we sent in about 3 weeks ago, which they 'lost', and he would be working through our claim for the rest of today. He called back a few hours later and said he had good news and bad news. Lyle asked what the bad news was, and the guy said "I'm an ugly bugger!" and the good news...WE'RE GETTING ALL THE MONEY WE'RE OWED!!!

    It's SUCH a relief! After expecting to only be paid a few months' and lose most our savings, we're so happy. No more rent or bill worries, and I can get cracking with the next project for Kasper's Kitchen woop woop!
    :aparty2:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 14th, 2012 11:58pm (Mar 14th 2012)
     
    That's fantastic news Red! How wonderful that you got someone who was prepared to sort it all out - can forgive him for being ugly!! :wink: !!
    • CommentAuthorLynnW
    • CommentTimeMar 15th, 2012 6:05am (Mar 15th 2012)
     
    Red, that is such wonderful news..I didn't think it was EVER going to get solved!!!:woohoo:
    • CommentAuthorTrevs Mum
    • CommentTimeMar 15th, 2012 7:28am (Mar 15th 2012)
     
    Good news Red:face-smile:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 15th, 2012 1:05pm (Mar 15th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Thanks everyone, it is awesome!! I've ordered a sewing machine, Lyle bought a new game, and I shall be buying some Ipod speakers at some point too :)
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMar 15th, 2012 6:04pm (Mar 15th 2012)
     
    Brilliant news Red - and about time too!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 16th, 2012 2:58pm (Mar 16th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Haha I know, took them long enough! Can't wait to be able to listen to and charge my Ipod again :) And will be able to order some birthday things for Lyle and Kasper's birthdays in May :bigsmile:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 21st, 2012 8:11pm (Mar 21st 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    rant: most other dog owners make me so sad :(

    Today there was a woman yanking her dog around by its' neck, on-lead...dogs' paws came off the floor at one point!! We saw an Airedale Terrier that was walking past us and barked once at Kasper. The owner's reaction was to reach down and slap it hard across the back!

    Yesterday there was a really chunky and happy black lab off-lead, and she came running to say hello to ours. She was so bouncy and playfull and lovable!! The owners screamed at her, and as she was running towards one the other grabbed her by the scruff of the neck and yanked her to the ground :angry: Once we'd walked past I heard yelling and looked back and the man was chasing after her kicking her :cry: Lyle wanted to yell at them but I forced him not to because didn't want them coming after us or our dog...

    Then there's the farm dog that lives near my Nana. He's a Border Collie chained up on the farm with an old box for shelter...I've never seen it get any affection, play or stimulation and it's been there for years...they've also bred some dogs up there as there's at least 4 puppies wandering around (look to be about 4 months old) unattended near a very busy road.

    Finally there's the GSD that lives on the row of houses where my nana used to live. It's been an outdoor dog for about 6 years now, we always hear it bark at us rain or shine. Tonight it had managed to get out of the poorly fenced garden onto the viaduct, where it was sniffing around tentatively enjoying its' freedom. It ran to the fence and barked and growled when it saw our dog, obviously terrified, and I was left with no choice but to say "Oi!" when I thought it was coming closer...its' ears went down and it hunkered back, I felt so bad :sad:

    We walked past it again on the way back and it barked again then forced its' way back through the fence and down into the garden, where it proceeded to bark. I felt sooo bad for it...trying to find info on what the RSPCA count as abuse and what they'd get off their backsides for!!
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMar 22nd, 2012 5:58pm (Mar 22nd 2012)
     
    RSPCA are useless. My friend's neighbours keep 2 dogs in a tiny garden littered with dog poo, never exercise them and left them in the burning hot sun with no water. All they did was go round and tell them off and say they would call again 'and ring to let them know when they were coming'. How useless is that?
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 22nd, 2012 10:30pm (Mar 22nd 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    It's terrible, because there isn't anybody else and the dogs need *somebody* to try help them out :sad:

    I was trying to find out the RSPCA's policy on outdoor dogs (fine as long as they have the 5's: environment, diet, behaviour, company & health)

    As I was looking for info I stumbled across a complaint where there were two GSDs being kept outside in the middle of winter, covered in snow, with absolutely no shelter. They were sleeping buried in snow. The person who saw this couldn't bear knowing they were suffering, so she contacted the RSPCA. She contacted them repeatedly for several weeks before someone finally said they would go have a look...not sure if they did or if the situation was ever actually resolved, but the fact it took her so long is disgusting.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 22nd, 2012 11:54pm (Mar 22nd 2012)
     
    I know the RSPCA are busy, but they are totally ineffectual too. It is heartbreaking to see so many examples of bad 'pet' care Red. I sometimes feel really sorry for the cats at rehoming, and then remember that most of them are the lucky ones. They've been abused, dumped, mistreated and just want a peaceful life. I hate the ones where their owner has died or gone into a home and the family can't wait to get rid of the cat. But I digress.

    One of the managers at rehoming once told me that I can't save all the stray cats - same is true for the dogs you saw. You did your bit having Kasper, and will no doubt do something similar with your next dog. Report what you can but don't get directly involved for your own safety in some cases. In may instances it is that the owner doesn't have the foggiest idea how to properly train their dog - hence some dog attacks. Very sad for the poor animal.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 23rd, 2012 11:30pm (Mar 23rd 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    I always contemplate reporting pet shops to them (I'm talking about the worst of the worst; rodents breeding with each other willy nilly and stealing and eating each others' young, guinea pigs kept in cages the size of shoe boxes) but I always just think 'what's the point?' Nothing will get done. And at least someone will probably buy them, not like a dog that's stuck with horrid owners all its' life and has no escape...
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMar 24th, 2012 6:42pm (Mar 24th 2012)
     
    That was why I got cross when they initially said I couldn't have a rabbit as 'he wouldn't be able to sit on his haunches in the hutch' - regardless of the fact he would only be in it overnight. I could have gone to a petshop, bought an English Giant (WANT one) and kept it in a matchbox and nobody would have commented. Some people would have given up with the RSPCA at that point, and gone and done just that.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 25th, 2012 12:08pm (Mar 25th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Haha, bloody useless!! So they'd give a rabbit to someone who was keeping it in a tiny hutch, as long as it was tall enough for the rabbit to stand in...but not to someone where the rabbit would have free-range of the garden?! Jeez...and yet they still wouldn't do anything for the rabbits near where we used to live!!

    Lyle phoned them this morning after his run in with the rudest woman ever - she made him so cross!! :face-devil-grin:

    We were walking back from the moor towards the village, along a 60mph road (known as the 'mad mile' round here!) and a black Lab sauntered out of its' garden and across the road to say hello to our dog :shocked: Lyle freaked because he thought the dog was gonna get hit (whilst I stood there going "there's nothing we can do, it's okay, we can't do anything!")

    Once Kasp had gone a bit giddy and was too much for the Lab, the Lab pootled back across the 60mph causing god knows' how many near-crashes - oh, it didn't have a collar either so we couldn't grab it!! :angry:

    Lyle crossed after it and went to tell the owner, thinking they must have accidentally left the garden gate open. The owner started yelling at him, saying she was "perfectly capable of looking after her own dog!" Lyle told her she obviously wasn't, we walked home, and then he reported it to the RSPCA.

    They said to call the dog warden. There isn't one at the weekend. Phoned the council and they said to phone the non-emergency police number, so we did. They really didn't want to do anything, but when Lyle said over and over that it was a busy road and cars were swerving, they said they'd get a car over ASAP and speak with the owner.
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMar 25th, 2012 5:59pm (Mar 25th 2012)
     
    People are just soooooooooo stupid sometimes. It's as well you and Lyle were on the ball, Red.:face-sad:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 26th, 2012 6:41pm (Mar 26th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Lyle was really panicking and not knowing what to do to stop the dog being hit, which I think is why he went to speak to the owner afterwords as he was so worried...then he got an earful haha poor Lyle! :laugh:

    Let's hope a visit from the police drilled the message home...I hope they actually went!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMar 26th, 2012 6:47pm (Mar 26th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Today's rant: the absolutely useless pet shop at the market in town! It's the same one that once had a Beardie and a tortoise housed together...today they were feeding a juvenile cornsnake huge fully grown locusts! Aaaagh! :cursing:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 26th, 2012 11:14pm (Mar 26th 2012)
     
    Caitlyn had diarrhoea and vomiting on Friday/Saturday, and now all the men in the house have come down with it - all last night and within 2 hours of each other! I managed to avoid getting it from Caitlyn because I was at work on Friday and rehoming Saturday morning (so limited contact), but they were all home with her. However, now I'm running around after them so am odds on to go down with it. I told my boss if I don't get it I'm going to write to the Pope and asked for it to be recognised as a miracle!!!
    • CommentAuthorTrevs Mum
    • CommentTimeMar 27th, 2012 5:08am (Mar 27th 2012)
     
    Ha ha brilliant woman Kate! often we girls manage to escape the bugs somehow.
    I have a tummy upset at present probably because my body is in a sad place at present.
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMar 27th, 2012 5:47pm (Mar 27th 2012)
     
    Feel better soon, Julie...:heart: ...and stay healthy Kate! :)
    • CommentAuthorLynnW
    • CommentTimeMar 27th, 2012 10:19pm (Mar 27th 2012)
     
    I hope you feel better soon, Julie..

    I hope you don't come down with what ever your guys have, Kate.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMar 27th, 2012 11:39pm (Mar 27th 2012)
     
    My stomach is always the first to suffer if I'm upset too TM. I hope you feel better soon. :heart:

    I have been fine all day, got home and cooked, tidied, and then cleaned the bathrooms to within an inch of their lives! Wiped it all down with Milton too. Now I'm sitting here thinking "my stomach doesn't feel so good". Be just my luck - waiting until I cleaned. Nooooooo!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 2nd, 2012 12:07am (Apr 2nd 2012)
     
    Well, the 48hr bug turned out to be a 72 hour blighter and got me Friday night/Saturday morning. Woke at 2.30 with horrendous stomach ache - it really was a nasty one. Am now trying to get my strength back - won't be going to work tomorrow. Can't work in infection prevention and preach to everyone about being 48 hours clear before returning and breach that myself now can I!!

    Have one other thing I'd love to rant about but can't on a public forum, so I'll say AARRGGHH! and leave it at that for now!
    • CommentAuthorTrevs Mum
    • CommentTimeApr 2nd, 2012 6:44am (Apr 2nd 2012)
     
    ok big AARRGGHHH Kate go for it, there that's better.
    Hope your tummy has started to settle now.:face-smile:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 2nd, 2012 12:13pm (Apr 2nd 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Glad you're feeling better Kate.

    rant: the stupid old woman who walks her two dogs on and off-lead, unmuzzled, when one is the most aggressive dog I've ever seen! It really makes me mad, and what's even worse is that when they're off-lead she has NO control over them and she can't keep up with them to make sure they're okay, she's miles behind!!! :cursing:

    I swear if that dog came anywhere near Kasper I would kick it as hard as I could...I just hope I could get in there first!

    It really really makes me mad!! She leaves them tied up outside the shop whilst she goes inside, and I jumped out of my skin today as we were walking past because the dog started barking and snarling and trying to attack Kasper - poor Kasper did too!

    Luckily when we were closest to it, it was on the other side of a small wall. She really annoys me, it's so dangerous... :angry:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 3rd, 2012 1:47pm (Apr 3rd 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    rant: okay, old women seem to be really doing my head in recently!

    First: there was an old woman sat across the aisle of the bus to us yesterday. We were sat on the second floor and there were seven people on the bus in total. We had the window next to us open as it was very warm. Out of the blue this woman said, whilst jabbing her finger at us: "Close that window! I'm sat in a draft!"

    Lyle closed the window and replied, very politely I thought, "there was no need to be quite so rude about it." Wow! That set the old woman off!! She said she didn't have to sit there in a draft just because we wanted the window open, and when I asked why we should have to sit here too warm because she was too cold and wouldn't move, her response was "Well, I'm older than you!!" It ended with me laughing (because there's nothing more that annoys people) and her making annoyed noises and then staring out the window for the rest of the way...

    The second incident happened today. There is a severe lack of bins in our village, meaning we will bag Kasper's poo and put it somewhere discreet (under trees / bushes etc) until we return about 40 minutes later to bin it. I mean, nobody wants to carry bags of poo around with them for almost an hour!!

    Anyway, this old woman saw me do it and immediately said, "You're not supposed to do that! Pick it up now!" I blinked at her a few times, and answered, "Oh, it's okay, we're just leaving it there for our walk because there aren't any bins at all. We'll pick it up and bin it on our way back." She huffed at us and walked off tutting!

    I have nothing against old people at all - same as everybody else in the world, I will begin by treating them with respect. However if they show no respect towards me at all, I certainly won't show any towards them either!! What really annoys me is that the reason these old people feel they can 'attack' me and Lyle is simply because of our age, because we are the dreaded "youths". If we were 20 years older they wouldn't dare.

    The village newsletter was talking about the issue of dog fouling recently, so I've emailed them complaining about the lack of bins, the way they wrote the article, and asking why they don't ever try tackle the problem of litter!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 3rd, 2012 11:24pm (Apr 3rd 2012)
     
    I hate it when you see articles about a problem but they don't try to offer a solution. I wonder if the old lady would have preferred you to leave Kasper's poop where he did it until you returned?! Though to be fair there are people who bag it and leave it, or throw it over my back fence so that it lands between the fence and the shed for Shaun to find and carry out to me. :beaker: I think its quite good that she challenged you (rather than just moaning to whoever will listen in the supermarket queue!) but she could've been nicer when you explained.

    Do you remember saying that you meet more bad dog owners than good ones? Perhaps those old ladies met more bad 20 year olds than good ones so just make an assumption. We all do that sometimes. Just take no notice and continue being the lovely well rounded human beings you are.

    PS Was one of those old ladies your future self CC? I'm pretty sure the cold one on the bus was me!!!!!
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeApr 4th, 2012 11:08am (Apr 4th 2012)
     
    ....and that was me sitting on the seat next to you Kateb! Grand daughter calls me "Grumple Gran" 'cos I'm always having a "go" at things.

    Rant = Reading about my new tablets (see "Best today" thread) I find that I should avoid alcohol. Trying to persuade myself that the compensation will be less intake of calories.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 4th, 2012 12:13pm (Apr 4th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Posted By: KatebI hate it when you see articles about a problem but they don't try to offer a solution.


    That is exactly what really peeved me off about the article - the solution is obvious, but instead lets blame all dog owners!!

    Posted By: KatebDo you remember saying that you meet more bad dog owners than good ones? Perhaps those old ladies met more bad 20 year olds than good ones so just make an assumption.


    That's very true, but I still assume every dog owner we meet will be nice...it's just most times they disappoint me! :tooth:

    I hate people that have to ruin other people's harmless fun. We were at the quiz last night, and it's very relaxed with everyone chatting and having a laugh...during the break in questions when music is playing so we were chatting, an old woman leaned across and said, "Shut up! We won't be able to hear the questions!"

    We were quiet when the questions were being asked, otherwise we'd miss them too...but anyway, it's all a bit of fun!! There's no need to be horrible!! The man I assume was her husband looked sooo embarrassed and apologetic! Of course in between questions we were even louder after that, and eventually the quiz master came and asked them to leave, because they were moving around the pub asking everyone to shut up!

    I think I just hate rude people, and unfortunately lately it seems to be old women that are rude! There's no need for it...why wouldn't you just start off being friendly?! The woman with the dog who was nasty about the poo was particularly surprising, because we've chatted to her quite a few times as both our dogs like each other...
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeApr 4th, 2012 5:59pm (Apr 4th 2012)
     
    No, I like a draught! I'm always too hot. I would have had a go about the poo bag if I hadn't realised they were coming back for it later, though...
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 4th, 2012 7:51pm (Apr 4th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    But would you have been so rude about it? Because that's what I struggle to understand. Let's say I saw someone dropping litter and wanted to challenge them about it, as I guess that's a similar situation, I've said in the past "Erm, excuse me, can you pick that litter up please?" One time they picked it up, another time they didn't - that's when I got rude! :tooth:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 4th, 2012 11:26pm (Apr 4th 2012)
     
    But you see Red, you're only in your 20s and just not jaded enough yet! Those women have been practicing for years to get their grumps just right, and after 50 years of assuming everyone will be nice and then being disappointed more often than not they just fall straight into moan-mode. I figure that after all these years of having to be nice to everyone, old age is a darn good excuse to be rude!!

    Funnily enough, my MIL used to be helpful and friendly to everyone and everything, but since she retired she has no time for anyone and will moan at whoever she pleases. Maybe its being referred to as a pensioner that does it!!

    But yes, I am jesting. There is no excuse for rudeness, but we let our older population get away with it - and they wonder why people are rude in return.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 7th, 2012 12:02am (Apr 7th 2012)
     
    Not really a rant, more the "unfairness of it all".

    Patch had been at rehoming for 15 months without a sniff of interest as he is shy and has FIV. They had a real push on finding him a home, and finally, 2 weeks ago, he was reserved and then rehomed. It seems from the website that he has gone missing from his new home. He must be very fearful, and if he's being targeted by the local 'tom' population and having to defend himself he could be spreading the virus. It so sad that he waited so long for a home and hs now got lost.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 7th, 2012 3:39pm (Apr 7th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Posted By: KatebBut you see Red, you're only in your 20s and just not jaded enough yet! Those women have been practicing for years to get their grumps just right, and after 50 years of assuming everyone will be nice and then being disappointed more often than not they just fall straight into moan-mode. I figure that after all these years of having to be nice to everyone, old age is a darn good excuse to be rude!!

    Funnily enough, my MIL used to be helpful and friendly to everyone and everything, but since she retired she has no time for anyone and will moan at whoever she pleases. Maybe its being referred to as a pensioner that does it!!

    But yes, I am jesting. There is no excuse for rudeness, but we let our older population get away with it - and they wonder why people are rude in return.


    Haha, that's very true!! I just find it ironic that some old people think that the youths of today are rude to them - I wonder why!! :001_rolleyes:

    That is very unfair Kate. I hope they find him soon.
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeApr 7th, 2012 6:34pm (Apr 7th 2012)
     
    Sorry to hear it Kate, was he rehomed near the cat place? He might make his way back...
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 8th, 2012 6:07pm (Apr 8th 2012)
     
    Apparently the woman who'd homed him was bringing him back because he'd "wrecked her home". The neighbour was helping and when they brought him out of the house in the carrier it came open and he ran off. Don't know if they hadn't closed it properly or if he'd managed to force it. He was a hefty cat! Still no news though.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 10th, 2012 5:26pm (Apr 10th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    rant: had an appt with someone who I'll be seeing occasionally. We talked about everything and she was asking about manic episodes. She then asked Lyle if, when manic, I couldn't just be "feeling happier than usual"...what an absolute idiot, and she's supposed to be a professional! That was really stupid and rude of her, she obviously thinks we're both idiots and don't understand normal human behaviour! :cursing:

    This is after I'd already told her all the things I've done in an 'up' too, very far away from the actions of a stable person...I'm so glad she's not someone important or high up, thank god she's not my Dr :angry:

    She said a couple of other stupid things and was annoying in general - can't wait to see her again :001_rolleyes:
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeApr 10th, 2012 5:33pm (Apr 10th 2012)
     
    I suppose she has to ask - let's face it, there are some people who hugely overstate their problems, and she doesn't want to waste time treating someone like them. Now she knows you're in earnest, it'll probably be fine.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 10th, 2012 11:06pm (Apr 10th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    I guess that's true. It was just a completely pointless appt...she's not my Dr she's just 'something' to see me between his appts...she should already know everything from my files from my proper Doc, but she just seemed pretty useless! The homework she gave us was to think about 'what we wanted to change', as if we didn't know already and hadn't already told lots of other people that...at least she's not gonna try push CBT on me as she thinks it won't help me at all, so we can agree on that :bigsmile:

    Maybe it's just because my latest Doc is so amazingly awesome that everyone else just pales beside him :laugh:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 11th, 2012 12:00am (Apr 11th 2012)
     
    CBT is good for some things, but I wouldn't have thought it was the right thing for you. I didn't 'gel' with the psyche person I had one to one sessions with when I was freaking out about the footballers, but the 2 girls that ran the group session were great. They are the ones that helped me and it was through them I saw the value of CBT that helped me through my bad times. The first woman just didn't understand me at all.

    Will you be seeing her every time or can you ask to see someone different?
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 11th, 2012 12:24pm (Apr 11th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    She didn't think CBT would work because I do all the right things when a mood swings happens...I carry on with dog baking, dog walks, going on the exercise bike etc. The mood swings happen anyway and aren't triggered by anything. It's gonna take meds to even them out before I can try anything else...my proper Doc started me on an anti-psychotic for psychosis in depression and mania (my diagnosis has changed to bipolar now which I think fits way more) and its' supposed to be one that has a mood stabilising effect too...so I just have to wait several months and see if my mood swings! :smile:

    If it doesn't, great, if it does, we'll take it from there!!

    I see her in between appts with my Doc...because he's really busy he can only see me like once every two or three months, so he wanted me to see someone in between...which is really awesome of him. Hopefully we will get on better next time, other wise I might have to ask for someone else (which would be horrible!!) because it's like you said the relationship between patient and professional really makes a difference.
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeApr 11th, 2012 6:00pm (Apr 11th 2012)
     
    If it's a one-to-one relationship it's very important that you click with the person you're seeing, I would have thought. I hope it goes better next time Red; if not then yes, you might have to ask for a different person.
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeApr 11th, 2012 6:14pm (Apr 11th 2012)
     
    Don't be afraid of asking for a change. It is an accepted practice, either way.
    The practitioner themselves sometimes need to do this when they feel they are not "in tune".
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 11th, 2012 11:19pm (Apr 11th 2012)
     
    I wish I'd asked to see someone else, but I carried on and got nothing out of the appointments. I was worried they'd think I was a nuisance or self-important, but that was part of the stress I was experiencing. Give her another go but if you're still unhappy ask for a switch.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 12th, 2012 7:46pm (Apr 12th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    That's what I worry about Kate! But Ollie it's nice to know that it's a common thing to do...I'll see how the next appt goes and maybe try one after that, but if we just don't 'click' I'll certainly think about asking for to try a different person.

    rant: the flipping weather! It's been raining most the time with periodical bits of gorgeous sunshine...it was sunny right up until our evening walk then clouded over and began to rain, and rained all the way through our morning one of course... :_oh_really:
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeApr 13th, 2012 7:36pm (Apr 13th 2012)
     
    Stoppit. We need the rain! :rolling:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 14th, 2012 11:43pm (Apr 14th 2012)
     
    She's so selfish - fancy wanting nice weather for her holiday!!!! :rolling:

    It'll be quite on here for the next week or so with Red not being around - hope she has a good time!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 21st, 2012 1:34pm (Apr 21st 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Haha I didn't even realise there was apparently a water shortage elsewhere and hosepipe bans! (no TV so we don't watch the news) Feels like it's been raining forever here :P

    Thanks Kate! We had a great time and the weather wasn't too bad at all - rained all day when we were out walking 8.5 miles but other than that it was either sunny or grey but dry! :laugh:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 21st, 2012 1:35pm (Apr 21st 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Posted By: KatebIt'll be quite on here for the next week or so with Red not being around


    That's a bad thing right?! :rolling:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 22nd, 2012 11:27pm (Apr 22nd 2012)
     
    Yes Red, it's a bad thing!!!
    :bighug:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 23rd, 2012 3:26pm (Apr 23rd 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Ah thanks, just checking :tooth: :face-angel:
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeApr 23rd, 2012 10:09pm (Apr 23rd 2012)
     
    Yeah, Red went away so the girls pulled down their blinds.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 24th, 2012 9:26pm (Apr 24th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    rant: chopped open two of my fingers, one pretty badly...nice. I was hacking away at the eco earth for the RUB and totally missed and got myself. Jagged blade too so it's made a right mess of one of my fingers, it's stopped bleeding after an hour though :ack2:
    • CommentAuthorTrevs Mum
    • CommentTimeApr 25th, 2012 10:09am (Apr 25th 2012)
     
    oh Red that sounds awful. Do watch out for infection, lucky you didnt need stitches by the sound of it. OUCH.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 25th, 2012 12:09pm (Apr 25th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Thanks TM. It's gone all wrinkled and prune-like under the plaster so I tried not wearing one but whenever it touches something it really hurts...stupid thing.

    today's rant: our bloody roof is leaking. For god's sake. First the floor, then the carpet looking crap, then the shower leaking, then the leaky windows that grew mould and now the bloody roof...I actually really like this house too
    :face-sad:

    Then we found out our final two hissers had passed away sometime between Tuesday morning and today, so we are now hisser-less...

    And it's chucking it down and we didn't take the dog out early in the hope it would stop but it just got worse...one of those days I guess.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 25th, 2012 11:30pm (Apr 25th 2012)
     
    That's a bad day Red! Sorry about your hissers - will you get more?

    Try taking the plaster off when you go to bed, then the air can get to it and help it to heal but you shouldn't be hurting them. If that doesn't help, try putting some gauze (with a light dressing over it. Better than a band-aid!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 26th, 2012 12:17am (Apr 26th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    I don't think we'll get more in the foreseeable future, but I'm sure we will at some point :smile:

    I had the same idea about the gammy finger (seems to be gelling together okay now) and took the plaster off...then remembered we had to get the rats out! So have been trying to keep the cut away from them, but that's impossible, so will just wash it well afterwards! I'm sure rat germs won't do too much harm :rolling:

    We went round to next door about our leak as soon as we noticed it, some random woman said she'd send her husband around later to look at the leak (??)...and we haven't heard from them. I see another hole-type saga coming...!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 26th, 2012 10:46pm (Apr 26th 2012)
     
    If you put a plaster on your finger then handle the rats they will try to remove it for you! Must be something in the smell of them that attracts the rat. You're no more likely to catch anything from the rats in the wound than you would be from the dog or the frogs!

    When I was a child, if I grazed my knee or something like that my nan would always tell me to let the dog lick it because they had 'healing tongues'. I told my boss (Head of Infection Prevention) about it once - she was horrified!! But I survived!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 26th, 2012 11:08pm (Apr 26th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    I dunno, my rats have a tendancy to pee on me which thankfully the dog doesn't...the frog pee'd *at* me today though haha :tooth:

    My Grandad always insists when Kasp cuts himself that it's okay because his tongue will clean it out...I'm like, no Grandad that's what spreads germs leading to infection and no healing, hence the cones!!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 27th, 2012 10:27pm (Apr 27th 2012)
     
    That was my nan's thinking too. In the days before whatever it takes vet care if a dog hurt itself (for example, a cut paw) the dog would sit and lick it constantly, then get told to leave it alone, a kids sock would be put over it which it would then pull off, to have it put back on with some tape, which it would pull off ... and so it would go until the paw healed. Nowadays we go to the vet, pay for him to look at it, pay for stitches, pay for antibiotics, pay for a collar, pay for another consultation to check it ... you get the picture. That was why people thought a dog had a healing tongue. Must admit my dog 'healed' herself and my skinned knees several times!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 27th, 2012 10:28pm (Apr 27th 2012)
     
    Er, not that I'm condoning not taking your pet to the vet!!! Just pointing out the differences between then and now!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 29th, 2012 2:24pm (Apr 29th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Yeah, all the adults I know...would never take their dog to the vets (if they had one) for 'minor' injuries that should be seen by a vet...and yet they all get the dogs' yearly booster jabs done?! We won't get Kasper's done yearly, it's been proven to be healthier and safer to do them once every 3 years, so that's our plan...talking past tense about a few as they don't have dogs anymore but did a few years back.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeApr 29th, 2012 11:54pm (Apr 29th 2012)
     
    My friend used to get her cats jabbed every year against everything going, but she still ended up having to have her put to sleep because she had contracted one of the things she was supposedly immunised against. When my friend asked the vet he said "it's not 100% protection" so what's the point?!
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeApr 30th, 2012 4:23pm (Apr 30th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Whoah, that's really bad! How sad for the owner...

    On quite a few websites I've read there has been loads of people who simply never get their dogs jabbed after puppyhood, and who live long healthy lives...I think I'm too much of a worrier to do that though so 3 years seems a happy medium! Although some of the dogs' reactions after being vaccinated worry me enough, some died :ack2:
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeApr 30th, 2012 4:56pm (Apr 30th 2012)
     
    My friend's cats died of FIV even though they had been regularly injected.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 1st, 2012 11:19am (May 1st 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Sheesh. Well, it's another year till I'd think about getting Kasp jabbed, so maybe after much more research I'll choose to not get it done...it's so hard knowing what's best when all the vets lie!
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeMay 1st, 2012 11:51am (May 1st 2012)
     
    One prob is, boarding kennels insist of valid vacc records. We only bother if we need to use a kennel.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 1st, 2012 11:26pm (May 1st 2012)
     
    I have 2 rants.

    Went to the vet today with Emmett for her 6 monthly medication check for her arthritis. The vet thinks she is developing cataracts and could have high blood pressure as the vessels in her eye are very red and enlarged. Could be high BP or a possible bleed. The vet I saw last week with Foggy is an ophthalmologist specialist but is on holiday this week, so I have to go back next week so he can see her and they can do a blood pressure check. More worry, stress and expense.

    Second rant - a woman at the vets wanted details of rehoming places. Turned out her cat has been spending time at the house 2 or 3 doors down for the past couple of years. In her words, now that the cat is sick they don't want to know. She said she doesn't think the cat will 'settle' back with her so would be better off being rehomed. She hasn't given it a chance to 'settle' back with her (seems she was happy enough for the neighbours to feed her cat for the past couple of years) and now the cat is sick she doesn't want the expense so wants to dump it at a rehoming centre. I really wanted to say something but bit my tongue.
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMay 2nd, 2012 3:58pm (May 2nd 2012)
     
    O Kate, I hope they sort poor Emmet out; you don't need this on top of losing Foggy. :heart:
    As for the silly moo in the vets, i hope they saw through her.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 2nd, 2012 11:36pm (May 2nd 2012)
     
    I suspect the vet nurse did see through her. As for the rehoming centres, they tend to think along the lines that if that's the way they think about their cat it is better off away from them. It's a shame they can't send them the bill for the time spent in rehoming - that'd just mean they'd dump the cat instead though.

    Emmett seems OK in herself - her heart and lungs are sound, and she's old, but hopefully this will be a simple thing to sort out. Lots of animals cope with losing their sight. If she didn't and was distressed that would be a different matter, but we will be keeping a close eye on her. Thanks! x
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 3rd, 2012 7:21pm (May 3rd 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    not a rant really I guess, just an ugh...our evening walk tonight...yeah, Kasper did really well but I never want anything like that to happen again...
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeMay 3rd, 2012 8:27pm (May 3rd 2012)
     
    What happened Red?
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 4th, 2012 12:08am (May 4th 2012)
     
    I assume that's the encounter with the rottie you wrote about in the other thread?
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeMay 4th, 2012 11:01am (May 4th 2012)
     
    Ah, I missed that, I don't read all the threads.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 4th, 2012 3:55pm (May 4th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Yeah...I really didn't enjoy it. Off-lead Rottie being fairly aggressive to our dog and with no recall command when he's almost being hit by a car... :mad:

    We've seen the Rottie straying twice now because it can jump the garden fence, I bet it's happened more times...

    Still, if we see it again I will know to put it on-lead straight away!!
    • CommentAuthorzz9zzzalpha
    • CommentTimeMay 6th, 2012 9:44am (May 6th 2012)
     
    This is really a follow on from "RED" in Discussion time, about children being hit, but after I'd typed it realised it was a major rant so posted it here.

    I'm the youngest of 6 brought up by a single parent, my father died when I was eight and mum would never replace him. Now I don't know what mums secret was but neither I or any of my siblings were every hit. I think it was instilled from a very young age about behavior and what wasn't acceptable.

    Now to the dark side! I work in social housing, I'm not stereo typing here just my observations over many years and I hope I don't open a whole can of whoop a55.

    Children need more than food and somewhere to sleep to develop, they also need love and patience, but what I see on a daily basis is the young single mother who thinks that by providing the living environment that she needs will be enough for the child. A 42" LCD, Sky HD, Nintendo WII, Xbox, Iphone4 etc, and don’t get me started on "Bright House" aka "Legal Loan Sharks" The 3 kids in tow are all chomping on a Gregg's jumbo sausage roll with the nutritional value of snot! then a kid smiles and you can see by the teeth that they live on carbonated drinks. When you then hear the child asking its mother for something and after the n'th time of the mother saying "shurup Britney" that the child realises that mums on the Iphone to Chantelle who's just had a boob job at the expense of the NHS because it was making her suicidal that she only had a b-cup! The one thing that really makes me grit my teeth is when the parents say "he's got ADHD", not that they’ve had had a diagnosis from a medical professional but Lisa's kids at number 23 have ADHD and her kids behave just the same Arghhhhhhhhhhhhh:tearhair: and...... breath!

    Sorry but had to get that one out.
    Ian
    • CommentAuthorollie in UK
    • CommentTimeMay 6th, 2012 11:42am (May 6th 2012)
     
    Ian :iagree:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 6th, 2012 2:44pm (May 6th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Agreed too, very much so! (and don't worry about posting anything anywhere - we rarely post things where they should be on this forum!! :tooth: )

    I hate the ADHD excuse too...Aspergers / Autism is the same. Yes they are real conditions, but some parents are so quick to 'diagnose' themselves, or use it as an excuse. A friend of mine was talking to someone who had a 2 year old son, and she was saying he had Aspergers because he lined his cars up on the windowsill!! :shocked:

    Well yeah, he's a kid! And also when she opened the dishwasher door he tried close it...he's two!! And she hadn't taken him to the Dr or anything, she'd diagnosed him herself!
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 7th, 2012 12:16am (May 7th 2012)
     
    Ditto from me too Ian. You (and I) are proof that it's nothing to do with being brought up by a single-parent, it's about the parenting that person provides. The infant school kids round here know more swear words than I do, and many are stereo-typical housing estate as you describe. But sometimes there's a good one in there and it's a shame they all get tarred with the same brush. You must surely have come across some who just don't deserve to be living where they are and would appreciate a better life and better circumstances.

    We can't all be super nanny, and instead muddle through the best we know how, but when such young girls are having babies without knowing how to be an adult themselves, how can they bring that child up in a responsible way? ADHD is used too often as an excuse for bad behaviour.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 8th, 2012 11:45am (May 8th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Posted By: KatebWe can't all be super nanny, and instead muddle through the best we know how, but when such young girls are having babies without knowing how to be an adult themselves, how can they bring that child up in a responsible way? ADHD is used too often as an excuse for bad behaviour.


    Not all young parents are terrible...my dad was 18 when I was born. A friend at school used to be a real wild child, she took drugs, drank constantly, slept around, skived school etc. She had her first kid when she was 16 and left school, she has four now and her life has been totally turned around. She lives for her kids, she dresses nice, she puts all her efforts into them; the kids are happy, well adjusted and intelligent.
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 9th, 2012 11:23pm (May 9th 2012)
     
    I was 19 when I had my first! I wasn't saying all young parents are terrible, just that in today's climate they don't seem to have much common sense or maturity. I glad your friend is bucking the trend!

    We went to the carvery today. A little boy (under 2 years) threw his yorkshire pudding on the floor so his mom took his hand and slapped it so hard the whole place heard. Needless to say the child then started crying, his big sister picked the yorkshire up off the floor and gave it back to him to eat. That is unnecessary. (Though he didn't throw it again ...!)
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 10th, 2012 1:28pm (May 10th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    It's not their fault, their little boy has [insert self-diagnosed medical illness here]...
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      CommentAuthorchief chicken
    • CommentTimeMay 10th, 2012 5:56pm (May 10th 2012)
     
    ADHD, usually. Although when I was a brat it didn't exist owing to the preventive of the cane/slipper! :rolling:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 13th, 2012 2:48pm (May 13th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    rant: Ended up swearing at a man today. There was a ring with dogs doing agility, and it was really fun watching them, the dogs seemed to be enjoying it. Afterwards the dogs were all playing together and a man was shouting to his dog, who was ignoring him to play, but possibly couldn't even hear him over all the noise.

    He went towards his dog, tried to hit her, she ducked and fled, cowering. He screamed her to him and bless her she came. Every time he reached for her collar she cowered away, terrified, and in the end he managed to grab her collar and was hitting her...and I just couldn't stay quiet. This guy was one of the agility team members!! I gave him a mouthful and walked off, and left Lyle to comment on his 'really good dog training'...
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 13th, 2012 11:30pm (May 13th 2012)
     
    If you can find out who leads the club maybe you should write to them to complain about it. What a terrible way to treat your dog and what an awful example to set to people watching. In fact, you could report it to the police, but you'd have to give your name etc and it can get messy and horrible then. Or write to the organisers of the event, or the local press.
    Or perhaps just be happy that you voiced your opinion to him rather than walking away, and maybe it will make him reconsider his actions towards his dog in future.

    Well done for saying your piece.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 16th, 2012 6:52pm (May 16th 2012) edited
     

    Keeper of the hens

    I thought about contacting the agility club but didn't get their name - it was horrible to watch though, I just wanted to bring the Border Collie back home with me :( She was having such good fun playing with the other dogs and he just broke her...I really hope other spectators were as disgusted as I was at his treatment, but somehow I doubt it...

    rant: today has been a really rubbish day...started off really well and then just flopped. So now we're getting a takeaway for tea, which I'll totally regret later but oh well :001_rolleyes:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 16th, 2012 11:35pm (May 16th 2012)
     
    I bet if other people saw it they would've been disgusted too. There are a lot of animal lovers out there! They were probably pleased to see that you said something - I would've been.

    Just enjoy your takeaway - no guilt! We all need a treat to pick us up every now and then.
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 17th, 2012 5:39pm (May 17th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    It was almost guilt-free! It was the nicest takeaway I've ever had too, so totally worth it :smile:
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      CommentAuthorKateb
    • CommentTimeMay 17th, 2012 9:17pm (May 17th 2012)
     
    See?! What did I tell you! Got to trust your Aunty Kate!!! :face-smile:
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      CommentAuthorRed
    • CommentTimeMay 18th, 2012 3:08pm (May 18th 2012)
     

    Keeper of the hens

    Haha, apparently the first Tuesday we're in our new house we have to get a two-for-Tuesday Domino's deal as we can't get them delivered here but can in Bingley! I've only had one Domino's pizza since being veggie (that was when they randomly decided they would deliver to us here!) so it'll be fun to try another :smile: